Loving My Wife

No matter how great of a communicator I think I am, I have so much to learn. Just last night I told my wife I cleaned the garage and that her craft stuff had reclaimed all I had cleaned. She told me that the garage was never that clean and that we need to clean it. So, I repeated to her that I had cleaned it and that her craft crap had reclaimed it, only louder this time. Well, then all her defense mechanisms went up, like Megatron of the Transformers and the battle over the garage is on. All this while I am sitting up in my attic putting our seasonal stuff away. But before the battle between the autobot and the decepticon got started, she told me she was not talking to me and then went into the house.

I was angry, right, and ready to get peace after we fought. The problem was if peace was the goal and the end all was to love my wife, then being right really didn’t matter. I was ready to jump down through the attic into the house and win. Just as I was ready to take action the Holy Spirit ceased my soul and stopped me cold in my tracks. Do you love your wife? Of course I do, but first I want to win. Does God want to win with me? NO! The mental ping pong was started to annoy me and I went straight to the Bible, “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for the church.” My prayer then became, God change me so that I will love my wife, and I give her fully to you. As I went inside, I noticed that she had transformed back to my beautiful wife as she told me that she was trying so hard to get settled and she recognized all my hard work. I think the transformation that took place was not her as much as me and the way I see her.  She is my wife, the love of my life, my soul mate, my best friend, confidant and the mother to our children and not an argument to win.